Don’t say “yes” if you want to say “no”. Don’t say “maybe” if you want to say “never”. You can’t hurt people with your decisions. We always want to please, but at the end we are hurting ourselves; it took me a lot of time to learn how to say “no”, but I finally managed.
In life you don’t get what you want… You get what you picture.
Holton Buggs (via entrepreneurlifestyleuniverse)
You can have whatever you want in life when you know how to commit to your goals. If you come from a broken home or lack of emotional support as a child through difficult times you will find committing excruciatingly painful. Commitment doesn’t come naturally if you haven’t internalised it from modelling or experience.
When a bad time comes you will find it very hard to face it head on, avoidance, anxiety and depression can set in, sometimes even grief. It can feel overwhelming, too much and numbing out can be a coping mechanism here. This is because the bad time will unconsciously connect to earlier wounding if you haven’t worked through it.
I’m on a different wave, therefore your storms can’t affect me.
– Meggan Roxanne
Some people think that a place can save them. Like if they could just be somewhere else, their lives would be totally different. They could finally be the people they always wanted to be. But to me, a place is just a place. If you really want things to change, you can make them change no matter where you are.
Hannah Harrington, Saving June (via kryeveper)
It will never be perfect. You will face challenges all the time. If you sit with what the experience reminds you of, you will realise it’s connected to something in your past you haven’t worked through. Then you work through that and the relationship purifies. You get a deeper level of closeness. Then another challenges come up. Do you stay or do you quit?
The truth is intimacy isn’t all loving cuddles, incredible sex, great conversations and doing things for each other that make the other one happy. It’s hard, you have to sacrifice. Your needs and wants are always questioned – you have to spend time weighing up what you want.
If you want intimacy you will follow who the universe is bringing you and work through what that means for you. If you don’t and walk away in the hope of something better you are also pushing away the learning. This kills the deeper intimate relationship you can develop with yourself through the person that comes into your life. It’s never about the other person, it’s about you. ‘I deserve better’ – of course you deserve the world but when you learn to give yourself the love you need and say ‘welcome’ to the challenges that come your way then the relationship mirrors that. If the relationship needs to end it will happen organically. Trust the process.
