Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we feel so uncertain and vulnerable that we can’t go about the business of living our own lives? Why, when we have proved we are so strong and capable by the sheer fact that many of us have endured and survived what we have, can’t we believe in ourselves? Why, when we are experts at taking care of everybody around us, do we doubt our ability to take care of ourselves?
Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
(via thecodependent-blog)
Gratitude isn’t a tool to manipulate the universe or God. It’s a way to acknowledge our faith that everything happens for a reason even if we don’t know what that reason is.
Melody Beattie (via mysimplereminders)
Letting go doesn’t mean we don’t care. Letting go doesn’t mean we shut down. Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible – controlling that which we cannot – and instead, focus on what is possible – which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.
Melody Beattie (via unbuzzzed-blog)
“Universe, help my hidden or repressed angry feelings to surface. Help me have the courage to face them. Help me understand how I need to take care of myself with the people I feel anger toward. help me stop telling myself something is wrong with me when people victimize me and I feel angry about the victimization. I can trust my feelings to signal problems that need my attention.”
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Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go.
I continued until I was both gasping and glowing.
