The dark night of the soul is a profoundly good thing. It is an ongoing spiritual process in which we are liberated from attachments and compulsions and empowered to live and love more freely. Sometimes this letting go of old ways is painful, occasionally even devastating. But this is not why the night is called โ€˜dark.โ€™ The darkness of the night implies nothing sinister, only that the liberation takes place in hidden ways, beneath our knowledge and understanding. It happens mysteriously, in secret, and beyond our conscious control. For that reason it can be disturbing or even scary, but in the end it always works to our benefit.

~Thomas Moore

For the nearer the soul approaches Him, the blacker is the darkness which it feels and the deeper is the obscurity which comes through its weakness; just as, the nearer a man approaches the sun, the greater are the darkness and the affliction caused him through the great splendour of the sun and through the weakness and impurity of his eyes. In the same way, so immense is the spiritual light of God, and so greatly does it transcend our natural understanding , that the nearer we approach it, the more it blinds and darkens us.

St. John of the Cross, Dark Night of the Soul (via existential-saint)

Recovery is about getting honest and not using small issues to get our needs met. We need to learn to ask for what we want. If you’ve been milking something today the only way forward is to admit your mistake and sit with what feelings you’re actually dealing with. Try journaling or talking through the truth. Don’t shame yourself or use something to numb the pain. Pain is growth and growth is much more comforting than a little milk. ๐Ÿ„๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘ถ๐Ÿผ