lucidi-ty:

lucidi-ty:

When someone no longer positively affects your life, let them go. Don’t hinder your growth.

Toxic friendships; we have all had them. Those one sided friendships where despite the fact that all their actions go against your personal values, you continue to choose to see the good in them. Let this be your year of learning to let go and leave. Toxic friendships can be one of the most damaging relationships in your life as they often go undetected and you’re left feeling guilty and confused when they have upset you. You sit their and questions their actions when they play up, when they are self centred, when they don’t bother to check in on you or they use you for their personal gain and you excuse their actions because they are your “friend” and you remember “good times” that you have had together. But don’t let this fool you, toxic people will do anything to upkeep their image of being a good “friend”, when deep down their intentions aren’t in your best interest. In all your relationships you should feel valued and loved, and if someone who is close to you isn’t making you feel this way take time to reevaluate your friendship with them. Do they really want the best for you? Do they take time to appreciate you and your friendship? If the answer is no, let them go. Ending a friendship doesn’t have to be a big dramatic ordeal. It’s important when letting someone go to keep it very emotional and personal. It can be as simple as letting them know that your values are no longer aligned and that don’t see you them in your future anymore. Take time to care for yourself, emotions will run high, but the relief you get once you have cut ties is all worth it. You will always find support in those around you, but most importantly in yourself. You are brave and you are important, don’t let someone change that. 

Bringing this the fuck back up as a reminder for myself. People ain’t shit.