Learn how to receive love. As much as learning how to give love is important, if you cannot receive love without anxiety, you somehow don’t believe you are worthy of real love… Somewhere deep down you may truly believe that you are unlovable just the way you are. This can usually be traced back to childhood and conditional, rather than unconditional love, from the primary caregiver. To trust may be one of your biggest learnings which takes time and work. The ‘right’ person doesn’t exist like you may think it does and you may need to look at your relationship with control. This is an inner journey of opening your heart and sometimes it is important to work with a therapist of the same sex of your primary caregiver to allow the heart energy to soothe your soul.