Saturday 28th December 2019, 3-5pm

For all wives, fiancées and girlfriends of partners with ex-wives, ex-girlfriends, widowed, separated, divorced, still married, children and step children alike.

The archetype of the evil stepmother is rife within fairytales and yet we are living in a society with a 50% divorce rate. Break ups happen, people change and people frequently start a new relationship after a commitment to a previous partner. It’s most often complicated but when the intricacies are ignored and unprocessed the dark side of the archetype unravels with a great force. This wounds the new relationship, creates a breeding ground for codependency, and is harmful to the children involved.

So what is the place of the stepmother or second wife? How can she take her seat next to the throne of her king as the true queen. What is the place of the ex-partner in your partner’s life, and in yours? Stories teach us that history will repeat itself, that the mother is the madonna and the new girlfriend is the whore or that the stepmother figure is the evil queen. This translates in the psyche to worry, envy and fear and leaves the new relationship in vast comparison to the old. When children are involved it leaves them internalising a split of the feminine. If the ex-partner hasn’t worked on herself and moved on there are many envious attacks one needs to learn to protect oneself from.

This group will be a place where the fairytale of the heroine within the stepmother or second wife comes alive. We will journey with archetypal stories as well as discuss very real life issues such as: 

  • The price of scorn
  • How the previous relationship still has an impact
  • Finances
  • Boundaries
  • Affairs and secrecy
  • Responsibility and sacrifices
  • Building healthy relationships with the kids
  • Time sharing and pace
  • Competition, comparison, envy and jealousy 
  • Not repeating the same mistakes
  • Insecurities
  • Roles 
  • Anxieties and traps
  • Trust
  • Building a solid, loving and supportive long term relationship

There will be a lot of space for you to take your time to share what you may be struggling with in our safe and womblike space. Our groups are small (4-6 people) and held in our cosey candlelit room full of pillows in a private residence in Notting Hill. We are minutes away from the Portobello road and close to Ladbroke Grove station. For privacy reasons we will disclose the address via email.

This circle will be a regular support circle (frequency tbd with group).

All our groups are very thought through, protected and confidentially must be respected. We have a no photograph policy to protect your identity and give you the freedom to explore very sensitive issues.

The cost of the evening is £25 per person and as there is limited space please RSVP by filling out the form below. We will send you back all the details you need to your email for you to complete your booking.

This group will be run by Jasmine, psychotherapist and founder of Nurse The Soul. You can read more about her work here. If you have any questions before you sign up please email her directly on