Sometimes life doesn’t give you something you want, not because you don’t deserve it, but because you deserve more.
(via motivated-mindset)
Sympathy’s easy. You have sympathy for starving children swatting at flies on the late-night commercials. Sympathy is easy because it comes from a position of power. Empathy is getting down on your knees and looking someone else in the eye and realizing you could be them, and that all that separates you is luck.
Denis Lehane (via lazypacific)
quick protip: if someone is crying or freaking out over something minor, eg wifi not connecting, can’t find their hat, people talking too loud, do NOT tell them how small or petty the problem is to make it better. they know. they would probably love to calm down. you are doing the furthest possible thing from helping. people don’t have to earn expressions of feelings.
I’m just gonna put it out there that if someone’s freaking about something small, they’re really freaking out about something big that they’re trying to deal with, or something long term that’s been building up, and that little thing is the straw that broke the camel’s back.
I don’t know, try and give people the benefit of the doubt. Don’t be the next straw on their broken back.
Needed this today.
People don’t actually go from 0 to 60. If you think they did, you have failed to notice how long they’ve been at 59.
Leave your apartment looking terrible. Walk to the deli and see your usual deli guy’s eyes start to widen at your disheveled appearance. This would’ve horrified you yesterday but today it makes you smile. You’ve decided that everything that made you worry will now make you smile.
Walk with better posture. Order two helpings of dessert. Ask someone to take you to a doctor’s appointment and refuse to feel guilty about it. You would do the same for them so why should you feel like you’re putting anyone out? Stand by your opinion that The Shins are a good band even when you’re friends give you hell over it. This is thrilling. Openly loving The Shins has never felt so liberating.
Tell your mother that you love her because you do. Don’t tell anyone that you love them if it’s not true, if they don’t deserve it. It’s a privilege to be loved by you. Your emotional …days are effectively over.
Turn to Nature when people are absent. She has the cure for loneliness. She will welcome you like no one else. She will put you into her cradle and accept you for who you are. Her birds will sing a song for you, her winds will blow away your bad thoughts, and her rushing waters will bring calm to your upset mind.
(via eredion)
Traumatized children originally adapted to familial abuse in order to survive within the abusive family system. They believed that only by adapting to their parents’ expectations of them would they remain protected. Maintaining the status quo, even if it was a sick status quo, was for these children better than being abandoned or losing their identity within the family. They protected themselves from the primal fear of abandonment even as they lost contact with their true selves. The abusive family they worked so painfully to stabilize by fitting in provoked them to abandon their authenticity. From the point of view of the children, these adaptations were a matter of life and death. Their utility was sanctioned by the most powerful animal instinct: survival.
Pia Mellody, The Intimacy Factor (via imakesensejournal)
Success is a journey, not a destination. The process is often more important than the outcome.
(via motivated-mindset)
People don’t always need advice. Sometimes all they really need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand them.
(via motivated-mindset)
Being suicidal doesn’t mean that I’m going to kill myself.
Being suicidal is having this inexplainable ache while you’re living.
It’s waiting for your life to end, and wishing that you didn’t have to carry on.
Having this ache, and incapability to feel happy living, doesn’t mean that I am going to kill myself;
it just means I wouldn’t mind dying.
S.A // I Wouldn’t Mind. (via c0ffee-and-literature)
This sums up how I felt a few years ago.
(via inward-onward)
